Watch me first! (12 mins)

Watch me first! (12 mins)

Hi there!

Please start by watching this short video first. Don't worry too much about the 'resources' section just now, as I will let you know when to access which resource as we go.

Important Note:

Tess Deveze, the creator of this course, sadly passed away in June 2025. We’ve kept the videos exactly as Tess recorded them to honour their work and preserve the full experience of the course as they intended.

Please note that any references Tess makes to contacting them directly or joining a Facebook group are no longer active. Instead:

  • If you have questions or reflections, you're warmly invited to post them in the course discussion board (click here).

  • Victoria Cullen, sex educator at A Touchy Subject, will be responding to posts and continuing to support learners as part of Tess’s legacy.

Thank you for being here and carrying this important work forward.

Libido Recovery for Couples: 6 Weeks

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Week 1: Welcome, how the course works, getting intimate with desire, touching on touch

  • Watch me first! (12 mins)2
  • Week 1 Resources
  • 1.1 Welcome! (12mins)
  • 1.2 How to get the best out of this course (10 mins)
  • 1.3 The building blocks of desire and arousal (8 mins)
  • 1.4 The desire double-bind: Wanting to want (& the IEM) (37 mins)
  • 1.5 Touching on touch (14 mins)
  • 1.6 Week 1 review (3 mins)
  • Tess' W1 IEM debrief

Week 2: Navigating around 3 common side effects, painful penetration & making offers

  • Week 2 Resources
  • 2.1 Introducing the week (5 mins)
  • 2.2 The worst threesome you'll ever have (side-effects) (11 mins)
  • 2.3 Painful Penetration (9 mins)
  • 2.4 The joy of making offers (9 mins)
  • 2.5 Our yeses and our no's (12 mins)
  • 2.6 Week 2 review (2 mins)
  • Tess' W2.1 IEM debrief
  • Tess' W2.2 IEM debrief

Week 3: Tired of being tired? Understanding & getting around low energy + a trick to heighten pleasure

  • Week 3 Resources
  • 3.1 Introducing the week (5 mins)
  • 3.2 Tired of it all: Understanding fatigue (11 mins)
  • 3.3 Day to day, your routine and pleasure (>16 mins)
  • 3.4 Predicting the unpredictable (your energy levels) (7 mins)
  • 3.5 A pleasure enhancer (6 mins)
  • 3.6 Week 3 review (2 mins)
  • Tess' W3.1 IEM debrief
  • Tess' W3.2 IEM debrief

Week 4: Differences in libido, communication tools and some really fun ways to 'play'

  • Week 4 Resources
  • 4.1 Introducing the week (4 mins)
  • 4.2 Changed libido (24 mins)
  • 4.3 Getting specific (7 mins)
  • 4.4 Q&A (7 mins)
  • 4.5 Activities to connect (5 mins)
  • 4.6 Week 4 review (2 mins)
  • Tess' W4.1 IEM debrief
  • Tess' W4.2 IEM debrief

Week 5: Addressing body changes and body image, sex myth-busting and naming the elephant in the room

  • Week 5 Resources
  • 5.1 Introducing the week (5 mins)
  • 5.2 When our bodies change (12 mins)
  • 5.3 It's about celebration (a psychological tool) (12 mins)
  • 5.4 Fairy sex tales (20 mins)
  • 5.5 Naming & claiming the elephant in the room (4 mins)
  • 5.6 Week 5 review (2 mins)
  • Tess' W5.1 IEM debrief
  • Tess' W5.2 IEM debrief

Week 6: All you need to know about lube, safety, toys and a special date

  • Week 6 Resources
  • 6.1 Introducing the week (5 mins)
  • 6.2 Lube is life (15 mins)
  • 6.3 Gimme an 'amen' for safety! (17 mins)
  • 6.4 Toy-time, for play-time (19 mins)
  • 6.5 It's like dating again (5 mins)
  • 6.6 The grand finale & where to from here (8 mins)
  • W6.1 IEM Debrief

BONUSES

  • Anal Health and Care
  • Vulva & Vaginal Health
  • Penis and Erection Health
  • 10 Activities to Connect